don’t wallow. do something.

Allowing anger, sadness, and pain to fester inside is an invitation for insanity to come a’ creeping.

Be angry. Let your fury burn.

Then let it go.

Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. - Maya Angelou

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pessimism versus optimism

Are you a pessimist or an optimist?

Do you see the glass as half-empty or half full?

Is life full of could-be-better or could-be-worse situations?


Remember, nothing is permanent.

This shit too shall pass. You might just need more fiber.

Literally, you need to eat more fiber, or, you know, fiber as a euphemism for lay off the negatory.

Winston Churchill quote about pessimists and optimists

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty

~ Winston Churchill

how to stay positive when you’re incredibly angry

Before you go to bed tonight, take the time to sit down with a pen and paper. <– Seriously, nix typing this on the computer, and ditch the tablet and smartphone. There’s something insanely cathartic about doing this completely by hand.

Make a list of no less than five things that were happy, positive, or just otherwise didn’t fucking suck (a positive outlook has to begin somewhere, right?) that happened today. Bonus points if you can come up with a list of non-shitty things the object of your anger did.

Do this every night, or at least a few times a week.

Feel the anger dissipate. You don’t have to forgive to understand, and understanding will help you to move on and make the best decisions for you.

make it work, maybe?

I’ve been reading a ton of self-help books lately, and while they’ve successfully managed to get me pumped up and have been great as calm-ifying resources, I haven’t had much luck following through other than being all, “fuck yeah, let’s do this!” before retreating back into my solo pity party of rage.

But last night, I read a self-help guide geared specifically toward making a marriage work <– a sub-genre I guess I’d been specifically avoiding as I made my way through Amazon’s eBook selection. I read through the first few chapters, and I completed the exercises in my red composition notebook with my ultra-fine Sharpie marker.

And for the first night in days, maybe weeks, I went to sleep free of anger, I slept peacefully, and I woke up without the feeling of not-quite-indigestion and uncertainty that’s been plaguing me.

Is your marriage on the big sharp mother-fucking rocks? Then read this: Fix Your Marriage – 10 Simple Steps To Put The Joy And Intimacy Back In Your Marriage

You have nothing to lose by doing so, and you either try following the advice or you don’t. Simple as that. Better than crying about it, yeah? It might not work out, but you will never be unhappy with yourself for having tried.

it might not work out, but you will never be unhappy with yourself for having tried.

sometimes you need to be selfish

You hear stuff like this all the fucking time, but it’s true.

If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t respect yourself, if you don’t feel worthy, then you’re making life infinitely harder for yourself.

How? Why? Well, mostly because when you lack these selfish qualities of loving yourself, respecting yourself and being confident in yourself, then you’re more likely to also be the type of person who is paying way too much attention to the people in your life who don’t deserve to be there, all the while pushing away those who do.

quote from Marc and Angel Hack Life - marcandangel.com

The above quote is from this article. They’re totes worth a like/follow on Facebook.